Watch this Q&A session with Julie Orlov and learn what to do when the person you love always thinks you are cheating when you are not. Trust is complicated. Some people can find ways to convince themselves that their partner is cheating. Learn why this occurs and what you can do about.
This is fairly common in relationships at one stage or another. One partner can become concerned or even paranoid that the other is having an affair. It can be frustrating and difficult to contend with this when you are the partner being accused and are absolutely being 100% faithful. This lack of trust and constant vigilance over your partner’s behavior can lead to the destruction of the relationship.
Get a handle on this now before it destroys what you have. Watch the video at http://youtu.be/wFsMJ-Sec-U
And for those of you that prefer to read, here’s a summary of what you need to know.
People have suspicions and lack of trust for a variety of reasons. If you are on the receiving end of a partner or spouse that continuously accuses you of cheating when you are not, here are some things to consider and steps to follow.
- Make sure that there is nothing you do or say that would perpetuate your partner’s suspicions. Take a good look at yourself. Do you keep secrets in general? Are the many times when you time is unaccountable? Do you make comments about how attracted you are to other people? If you answer yes to any of these questions or other things come to mind that could promote distrust, then clean up your act. You may be the problem and not even know it.
- Once you conclude that your end of the street is clean, try to understand that your spouse may be feeling this way because she* has been cheated on before or she has major issues around the area of trust based on past experiences. Try to look at this from a place of compassion, not defensiveness and frustration.
- Gently talk to your partner about any past betrayals and see if you can help her separate out her past experiences from the relationship with you. Test reality and find out what it is specifically that makes your partner feel uneasy. Tackle and test the reality. Find out what it would take for trust to be established in the relationship. If you both agree on these terms, then implement these behaviors and hopefully trust can be built over time.
- If your spouse continues to struggle with hyper vigilant and suspicious behaviors, I strongly suggest you reach out for help. A qualified professional will know how to address these issues effectively. Find a qualified therapist and get some help.
*As with all relationship issues, they apply to both genders—I’ve used the female pronoun in this article because it applied to the situation presented in the Q&A video.
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