Let Go and Let In!

Change and transitions are not only a necessary part of life, they are a blessing. They allow you to meet new people and do new things, they enable you to grow and transform, and they create the space for more joy, happiness and love to come into your life. Unfortunately, we can stand in our own way. The idea of change is scary—we are not always comfortable with the unknown. So we end up holding on to what we do know, what is familiar and comfortable, often at the expense of our own wonderful future that is waiting to emerge. In the end, the very things we do to protect ourselves from potential “harm” are the very things that imprison us from potential growth and well-being.

It is so important to not only embrace change and transitions but to invite and welcome them to us. So whether you are someone who tries to block change or make change happen, there is a middle ground. It’s the place from which you let go and let in. Sometimes easier said than done, I know.  So in order to help you with this endeavor, I am offering five steps to help facilitate the art of letting go and letting in.

BIG NEWS! My radio/internet TV show “Pathways to Love” on LATalkLive will be moving to a new day and time. Starting April 14^th you can catch us LIVE every Sunday at 1:30pm PST at www.latalklive.com/new/pathways-to-love. As always, call in with your questions and comments at 323-247-7443! (Until then, you can still watch us live on Fridays, 2:30pm PST and always catch the archived recorded shows at www.latalklive.com/new/pathways-to-love)

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Is Having Sex With Your Ex a Good Idea?

Coming to terms with the end of a relationship is one of the most difficult transitions that relationships offer. It is complicated and often a non-linear path to “un-attach” oneself to someone you have come to know as your other half. To make matters worse, if you are the one who still wants the relationship to continue, you may find yourself compromising your values and morals in order to find a way to pull your significant other back in. Even if you are the one who initiated the ending, you may also find yourself pulled back to your ex as you navigate the waters of letting go. See if the following scenario rings a bell for you or someone you know. You officially have called it quits. One night your ex calls and invites you to dinner. You accept the invitation. You tell yourself you did so because you want to get the books you left at the house. But if truth be told, you really accepted the invitation because you’re feeling lonely and miss being around someone so familiar. When you arrive at the house, it feels good to be back in familiar territory—food, wine, and conversation flows—and before you know it, you find yourself having a passionate interlude with your ex. After the passion subsides, you wonder if you did the right thing. It felt like a good idea about an hour ago but now you’re feeling a little worried. Sound familiar?

Don’t forget to join me for my LIVE “Turning Disappointment into Intimate Connections” Workshop on February 26, 7 – 8:30pm at The Mystic Journey Bookstore in Venice, California. For more information and to register, go to http://www.mysticjourneybookstore.com/saleitem.php#WS0226

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Julie Orlov Q&A on Love and Relationships: Why was my ex able to move on so quickly?

Watch this weeks “Ask an Expert” video as Julie Orlov answers your questions on love and relationships. Today's question is "Why was my ex able to move on so quickly?" Did our 15 year marriage mean anything?" Going through a divorce is hard. When an ex-spouse remarries, it is common for the other party to have some feelings—even if they were the one that wanted the divorce in the first place. A lot of feelings come up, including jealousy, resentment, hurt, and a final layer of loss. If an ex gets remarried immediately after the divorce papers are signed, it can elicit other questions as well. Today’s question addresses these issues. Watch and learn the different ways people mourn and let go during the process of divorce and what it does and does not mean if your ex remarries quickly. Watch and Enjoy at http://youtu.be/AVWjT4zV9vc

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Coping With Change

“When they told us that for every door that closes another one opens, they never told us that the time we would need to spend in the hallway sucks.” –unknown We all know that change is a part of life. You may be graduating school, looking for employment, dealing with an illness, getting married, moving to a new home, or changing careers. Your change may be invited or resented—either way, you will need to say goodbye to the old and adjust to the new. But change is tricky...

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Dealing with relationship challenges when someone becomes ill?

It is inevitable. At one point in time your loved one will become ill. You will become ill. This could be a short-term illness, an injury that will take time to heal, a chronic illness that needs to be managed over a lifetime, or a life-threatening disease. When someone gets ill, your relationship is immediately challenged. Some of these challenges include... ... Long-term and life-threatening illnesses and injuries require a strategy for healing and well-being. Here are some guidelines and tips to consider as you make necessary adjustments to the new circumstances in your lives...

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