It’s natural to compare and contrast. Our brains are designed to do just that and we’ve been trained since Kindergarten the value in comparing and contrasting. It’s a wonderful cognitive skill and serves us in many ways. The one area of our lives where it does not serve us as well is in our relationships. We can create unnecessary pain for our mates and ourselves when we start to compare. And if you don’t think you do this, consider the following thoughts. You probably have one of them or a version of one all your own.