I have worked with many people over the past 25 years. Inevitably, most people simply want to get “there.” They want to arrive. They want to put the work in but in the end they want to find balance, peace, and happiness. As much as I would love to say I can take them there, in truth, I cannot. No one can. Life is about everything EXCEPT equilibrium and stability. Life is about cycles, rhythms, and a constant search for balance. Life never stands still. Your relationships will never stand still either. Today’s article is about embracing the rhythm and cycles of life. As you settle into couplehood, a few things happen.
We all know how easy and natural it is to engage in courtship when you first meet someone. You’re excited and wanting to put your best side forward. You are filled with anticipation and feel good hormones. You are enjoying the chase. In the beginning, you not only fall in love with each other but how you treat each other. However, as time goes on and partners feel secure and relaxed, it can become easy to become lackadaisical. After all, haven’t you deserved the right to now relax and rely on the fact that you both know you love each other? Is it necessary to continue the chase that courting entails? Is it really necessary to continue to play the game? In a nutshell, the answer is yes... So here are 7 ways to keep the courtship alive.
I get a lot of questions from people about forgiveness. People resist forgiveness for a variety of reasons. Some people believe that if you forgive someone for the harm they did, you will be asking for more harm down the line—in other words, forgiveness leaves you more vulnerable, not less. Other people believe that if you forgive someone, you will be giving them a free pass or condoning what they did—these people hold out, seeking punishment and vengeance. And some people simply don’t know how to forgive—it sounds simple in theory but difficult to execute with intention. So I thought I’d write this week’s blog in honor of forgiveness.
I often talk about how important it is to take full responsibility for your feelings as you create a solid foundation with another person. But what does this really mean? Does this mean that no one is ever responsible for saying or doing something that hurts your feelings? Well, the answer to that question is yes and no. Let me explain what I mean by setting up a scenario from which you can insert your own experience. Let’s say your romantic partner says something that hurts your feelings. Maybe she criticized the way you handle yourself professionally. Maybe he lied about what he was doing last night. Regardless of the words or deeds, you felt attacked, betrayed, belittled, or dismissed.
Watch my interview on The Full Potential Show with James Rick on The Pathway to Love. It was a very fun interview via Skype with valuable information on how to apply The Pathway to Love into your life. Enjoy!