I’ve been racking my brain thinking of what to write this week for my tip and blog post as Valentine’s Day is tomorrow. My dilemma is that I feel obligated to write something in honor of Valentine’s Day—I am aware that love and relationships are my areas of expertise. But for some reason, I can’t seem to find the enthusiasm. I have mixed feelings about Valentine’s Day. If you’re single or in a bad relationship, you wish the holiday would simply go away. If you’re in a good relationship or marriage, you can easily succumb to the pressure of feeling like you need to create romance and passionately express your love. And lastly, if you’re a parent with young children, you have the duty of helping them prepare Valentines for their classmates which may be fun for you or just another item on your already too full “to-do” list. So regardless of which category above you belong to, I wanted to write something that gives you some relief—something different to consider—something different from all the hype.
So for those of you that love Valentine’s Day and all that it encompasses, this article may give you some new ideas to add to your current repertoire of activities. For those of you that wish you could find a new way in which to enjoy Valentine’s Day, here are my suggestions for celebrating love.
- Adopt an animal from a shelter. A rescued pet is eternally grateful and will be an expression of your love every day of the year. This is the gift that keeps on giving.
- Take your single parent or grandparent out to dinner or better yet, cook them dinner at home. Sometimes your greatest love is your first love. Remembering to show your love and gratitude to a parent or grandparent will go a long way, long after their gone.
- Smile and give eye contact to everyone you encounter this Valentine’s Day. A smile goes a long way—it can bring a smile to an otherwise gloomy day for the person you see on the street.
- Make a donation to your favorite charity on Valentine’s Day. Making a difference is an act of love in its purest form.
- Forget the hype of romantic love. Real love is found in all your relationships in which you care about each other’s well-being. Express your gratitude to the people you have in your life that make your life what it is today.
- Okay, here is one for all you lovers out there—express your passion with abandon. Explore your fantasies, focus on pleasuring the one you love, get out of the house and away from the kids, and make sure you give yourselves the time and space necessary for creating connection, intimacy, and pure ecstasy!
Whatever you decide to do or not do this Valentine’s Day, I wish you lots of love every day of every year.
Please feel free to share with us what you did for Valentine’s Day and how it went. If you are really especially frustrated in the area of love and relationships, don’t hesitate to reach out. I’m here to help.
Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery
Create Relationships in Your Life That Work — learn more at www.julieorlov.com