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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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The Pathway to Love:  Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

In The Pathway to Love, Julie Orlov demonstrates how relationships grow and evolve – from the first moment you meet someone all the way to the creation of a long-term, committed, intimate relationship. She does so by outlining the four phases of a developing relationship, starting with fantasies and projections, and ending with creating a transformational relationship in which deep, profound love and intimacy live.

Orlov presents her developmental model in a way that makes it easy to digest and a lot of fun. After she explains the four phases, she tells the stories of four couples, each one dealing with a particular phase of development in their relationship. These stories are not case studies, but mini novellas. In taking this approach, Orlov allows readers to take a peek into the lives of others, thereby getting to know and experience each phase through the stories told. Even If readers don’t personally relate to the specifics of any one story, they most certainly relate to the theme – they will see themselves or someone they know in every story.

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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

“The Pathway to Love, for those who did not experience love as a child and fear relationships, is a journey of self-discovery.  You will acquire a whole new appreciation for who you are and what you can bring to your relationship with yourself and others. Orlov demonstrates not only how we affect and create our relationship with ourselves and others but how they can affect us in return on the creative journey of self-discovery and self-love.”

— Bernie Siegel, M.D., author of 365 Prescriptions For The Soul and 101 Exercises For The Soul

“A mercifully easy read, when love certainly isn’t, the book describes the ‘Four Phases of Love.’  Assessing at which level of development sample relationships are floundering, Dr. Orlov shows us the keys to the next door to intimacy with the encouragement that self-discovery will be the ultimate prize.”

—Melanie Chartoff, Actress, Writer

“Orlov presents a developmental model of the pathway to love in a way that is informative and trains the reader how to take charge of developing a love relationship from its present phase to its best outcome.”

—Shahin Sakhi, MD, PhD, clinical faculty, UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute, and President, Grex, Group Relations

“This is a little book with a gigantic message. I say it’s “little” because it’s small enough to fit in your hands comfortably – and that’s a good thing because you won’t want to put it down.

 

"Before you begin to read it, make a commitment to yourself to read it thoughtfully and reflectively. You will have many moments of deep self discovery and insights into why some of your relationships failed so miserably and why some lasted for a while but never really “got off the ground.” You will gain valuable insights into how to help a relationship move forward and become what Orlov describes in phase four as “Relating to your relationship as a living, breathing, life force in and of itself.”

Orlov posits that there are four phases to a relationship: Fantasy, Self Discovery, Personal Transformation and Relational Transformation. Each phase has its own issues and, while they are experienced in progression, they sometimes overlap. She demonstrates each one with a dynamic story of a couple and how they dealt with the issues of that phase – sometimes successfully and sometimes not so successfully.

You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

This book should be read by everyone who wants a truly loving, lasting relationship. It should be read together by every couple planning to get married and the workbook should be completed and reviewed together – before the wedding.

I recommend this book to anyone who wants to be in a mutually satisfying and loving relationship. Doesn’t that cover all of us?”

Irene Conlan “Irene” reviewed The Pathway to Love: Create intimacy and transform your relationships through self-discovery.

 A little book with a gigantic message July 13, 2011

“The Pathway To Love is an outstanding guide to building strong and intimate relationships in your life. To help the reader understand the four distinct phases of a relationship, author Julie Orlov lets us peek into the lives of four different couples- each couple in a different phase of relationship. From stage one -object fantasy, to the fourth stage of relational transformation, you will recognize yourself and gain valuable insight that will equip you with all the tools you need for relationship building. At the end of each story, the author reviews what we have gleaned from the couples and ways to navigate relational hurdles. The Pathway To Love is a unique answer to help qualify us for the very rewarding and serious business of human intimacy. Successful relationship will be tolerant, supportive, curious, eager and honest. I give this book a hearty cheer and found it not only informative but very enjoyable.” [[ASIN:0982976801 The Pathway to Love: Create intimacy and transform your relationships through self-discovery]]

—Rhonda Kendle, Spokane, WA

The Monthly Aspectarian  July 2011 Issue

The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery by Julie Orlov, MAOL, MSW. (Larimar Publishing, $16.95, Paperback.)

More than fifty percent of all marriages in America end in divorce. Why do so many couples fail at staying together? Social forces and moral factors aside, the answer comes down to a simple fact: relationships are complicated. Couples muddle through them without much guidance, then feel dismayed and betrayed when they disappoint. Imagine how much more successful and satisfying relationships would be if couples had a road map to follow, with detours on resolving differences and strengthening common bonds. Imagine how much happier countless people would be if they had clear warning signs to help them avoid getting into a bad relationship in the first place.

In The Pathway to Love, Julie Orlov explores how relationships grow and evolve from a spark of attraction between two strangers to a loving, intimate, long-term commitment between two life partners. Drawing on decades of experience as a relationship psychotherapist and consultant, she outlines the four phases of development in a relationship and reveals the challenges and opportunities that accompany each.

Throughout she sheds light on the gifts available as relationships develop and deepen—and even when relationships disappoint and unravel. Along the way we gain a wealth of insight for developing honest, supportive, and fulfilling relationships with others, especially a significant other. What’s more, we may be surprised to find that the real gift that awaits us is developing a relationship with ourselves.

In a way that’s engaging and fun, The Pathway to Love illustrates Orlov’s compelling premise: relationships are mirrors into our selves. Through telling the stories of four couples, all fictional but dealing with familiar real-life issues, she demonstrates how relationships with others help us see our own blind spots and face our fears. As she makes clear, relationships also have the potential to heal old wounds, open new possibilities, and serve as a catalyst for profound change.

Throughout she sheds light on the gifts available as relationships develop and deepen—and even when relationships disappoint and unravel. Along the way we gain a wealth of insight for developing honest, supportive, and fulfilling relationships with others, especially a significant other. What’s more, we may be surprised to find that the real gift that awaits us is developing a relationship with ourselves.

In a way that’s engaging and fun, The Pathway to Love illustrates Orlov’s compelling premise: relationships are mirrors into our selves. Through telling the stories of four couples, all fictional but dealing with familiar real-life issues, she demonstrates how relationships with others help us see our own blind spots and face our fears. As she makes clear, relationships also have the potential to heal old wounds, open new possibilities, and serve as a catalyst for profound change.

The Pathway to Love Workbook and Guide

“Knowing is not doing! This workbook is your path to actually doing what Julie teaches. Like any great guide, the workbook takes your hand and shows you the step-by-step, self-discovery process to reach your relationship destination. I encourage you to start your journey today.”

—Dave Jensen, Executive Coach and Educator, DaveJensenOnLeadership.com

The Pathway to Love Audio Guide

“Julie simplifies complex psychological theories and enables you to heal past wounds and improve your relationships.”

—Jacqueline Mills, PsyD, psychoanalyst and relational somatic psychotherapist

Speaking Engagements

“Julie Orlov’s presentation style is energetic and engaging—she gets the audience involved so that her suggestions and direction can be tailored to the needs of the audience she is trying to reach.” —Karen Holt, Bezaire and Associates

“Julie is an elegant speaker who gives good practical advice on all kinds of relationships. Her years of study and practice are apparent in the content of her talk and her delivery is very professional. I would highly recommend Julie as a Sunday morning speaker. Her workshop, which followed was well attended considering it was Super Bowl Sunday and those who participated found it informative and useful.” ─ Bev Conover, Church Administrator, Redondo Beach Center for Spiritual Living

Julie is a great communicator and facilitator. I am still amazed at how her program, The Pathway to Love, is impacting my life on a daily basis. After one short yet powerful workshop, my awareness of both myself and my husband related to our methods of connecting with one another has increased to the point where I believe that real progress can be made. Her approach to understanding and improving relationships is easy to implement and I noticed results from the very first time I used some of the tools – and I’m just beginning the process. Thank you, from one Julie to another – I am now confident that I can have a better relationship with my husband, and I am grateful! –Julie Jennings, Partner, Shirlaws

“Julie Orlov is a talented facilitator, diagnostician, teacher and agent of change. She provides a forum for active participation, for real-time information processing and for discussing issues that participants face in their current work environment. We continue to use her services…” —Louise Langerud, LMFT, director of training, clinical, and quality management, Life Steps Foundation

“Attending this introductory workshop was like seeing the tip of an iceberg - only a beginning of what lies underneath.   The workbook is filled with excellent exercises and explanations that cause real reflection and revelation - a first step in moving forward in any relationship.  Julie Orlov shows an excellence in teaching, explaining, and sharing that is down to earth, very real, and comforting based on her 25+ years experience.  Her coaching and counseling help participants identify how to resolve the issues that they each have.  Whether you have relationship issues or not, and whether they are with a spouse, child, parent or friend, Julie’s wisdom is pertinent and applicable.” -Mike Farmer, President, MNSA Channels

 

"It was such a pleasure to enjoy your company and wisdom at my women's group last week.  We all so enjoyed what you taught us about relationships and creating intimacy out of disappointments.  You have a truly unique way of getting right to the heart of the matter of a person's concerns and expressing the truth to them in a way that is kind and compassionate, almost waking the person out of their denial or emotions to understand what they are really feeling and make a choice to change. I was really surprised to see how many of the ladies were deeply affected by your stories and teachings and can only imagine how much of a positive effect you have had on all of our lives in only one short evening.

I really appreciate your taking the time out of your busy schedule and driving so far to enrich our lives.  I really love these women and was very moved to see your positive effect on so many of them." --With sincerest appreciation, Ellen Bullock  www.wonderfulonlinewomenLA.com

“Julie receives rave reviews about the classes she facilitates for us.  We hear nothing but positive feedback from our clients.”  —Nancy Kane, Claremont EAP Senior Account Manager