Getting Ready and Dating

My Gift to You – Track One of The Pathway to Love Audio Guide

Julie Orlov — Mon, 22 Apr 2013 00:46:29 +0000

When you first fall in love, it is common to feel both excited and anxious. Excited about how good it feels and what your future holds. Anxious because nothing feels secure and you don’t want to experience any rejection, disappointment, or despair. And while you feel like you know your new love interest, in reality, you don’t really know each other at all. That is why people are hyper reactive when things go wrong—or should I say—differently from what you had hoped and expected from this new and potential relationship.

People get caught off guard all the time—expecting their new love’s behavior to be consistent with the person they experienced on the first few dates or first few weeks. However, when something changes suddenly and unexpectedly, it is easy to feel confused and concerned. How you handle these situations can set the course for how you and your love interest handle future interactions. Knowing what to do can directly impact the future of this relationship. Understanding what is going on with you will ensure a powerful outcome, regardless of what that outcome is.

The Pathway to Love show you exactly what is happening, why it is happening, and how to move through the four phases with power and grace so you don’t unnecessarily mess things up or jeopardize your well-being. It enables you to create a partnership (or not) from a place of power. It helps you transform yourself and your relationship in a way that builds a strong foundation for creating intimacy.

Some of you have been hesitant to fully invest in The Pathway to Love program. To help you make this decision, I wanted to offer you a gift—a preview of what is available to you from having purchased The Pathway to Love at-home program. I am giving you the download of Track One from The Pathway to Love Audio Guide where you will listen in on my coaching session with Andrea. Andrea is struggling with how to deal with her new boyfriend of two months, who suddenly stopped returning her calls and emails. Listen in on how Andrea learns why she is reacting the way she is and how best to respond to her boyfriend’s disappearance.

I know you will not only enjoy listening to this powerful coaching session, but will be able to learn from Andrea’s experience by applying it to one of your own. For you, it may be something else but everyone has something happen in their relationship that “throws them off balance. Learn what you can do in your own situation.

Please enjoy my gift to you. It will also give you a taste of what the complete program has to offer. And don’t hesitate to contact me with any questions or comments.

Click here to retrieve your free download of “Andrea’s New Love” from The Pathway to Love Audio Guide.

If you or someone you know is struggling with creating a strong and intimate relationship, please reach out and contact me. I am here to provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve.

As always, I’m here to support you in creating a transformational life and strong and powerful relationships.

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Are You Settling for Crumbs?

Julie Orlov — Sun, 31 Mar 2013 20:20:44 +0000

One of the exercises in The Pathway to Love Workbook and Guide asks you to identify your top 5 needs, wants, and deal breakers. The reason for this exercise is to help you get clear on what qualities and traits are most important to you and what behaviors and traits are unacceptable. This exercise is designed to help keep your head clear while under the spell of phase one. In phase one of a developing relationship, it is easy to get caught up in the fantasies, delusions, and hormonal influences. Getting clear on what kind of relationship you want and how you want to be treated helps keep you on track as you get to know someone slowly over time.

Unfortunately, too many people get hooked on the initial “high” of a new love. And when that new love starts to back away or demonstrate less than desired behaviors, it can be easy to ignore the signs and begin the chase—to find the person, or better stated, the fantasy of the person, that made you feel so good just moments ago. Without knowing it, you begin to adjust, rationalize, manipulate, and tolerate behaviors and a relationship that looks nothing like the one you truly desire. You begin to convince yourself that that you’re getting a full and satisfying meal, when instead, you really are settling for crumbs. And my guess is that you’ve been hungry for a long time.

Here are some signs that you’ve been settling for crumbs and the remedies to help you get the real deal—a satisfying and nutritional meal called a relationship. Click Read in Browser to read more...

Get Ready to Start Loving Yourself!

Julie Orlov — Sun, 03 Mar 2013 21:08:29 +0000

The most important relationship you have is with yourself. You will be with you forever. People come and go throughout our lives but you are the constant source of love and power throughout your life. Enjoy this beautiful video montage that Loving Yourself University created using wonderful sounds, images, and inspirational quotes for self-love from yours truly. After you’ve watched the video, take the Loving Yourself Quiz and see how much love, compassion and joy you hold for yourself. Just click on “Read in Browser and Enjoy!

Facebook—A Relationship’s Friend or Foe

Julie Orlov — Mon, 04 Feb 2013 00:24:10 +0000

With all the publicity on people creating false identities on Facebook and dooping unsuspected people looking for love, I thought it was time to sort things out. People have been lying about who they are on the internet for as long as the internet has been in the business of love and relationships. Sometimes the lies are innocent enough—you fib a bit about your height or weight or post a picture that’s a decade old on your Facebook or dating site profile. Other times, as with the Manti Te’o's affair, the lies are massive as are the intended and unintended consequences and harm. And it appears that the problem is now pervasive—that a term (and a reality TV series) Catfish, was born. Some people love social media. Some people hate social media. The one thing I do know is that social media is here to stay. So I thought it was important to point out once again the benefits and the dangers inherent in this powerful media. I know that many of you after reading this article will say “duh” but I encourage you to read on regardless. You’d be surprised how easy it is to get caught up in the deceptive and alluring appeal that social media has—on your judgment, behaviors, and beliefs. So here’s the good, the bad, and the ugly. Take them as gentle (or not so gentle) reminders of how Facebook (and all social media outlets) can be both your friend and foe. Read more....

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Love and Relationship Q&A Julie Orlov “My 35 year-old boyfriend still lives with his parents!”

Julie Orlov — Mon, 07 Jan 2013 00:26:53 +0000

Relationship Help! Get dating and relationship advice on how to deal with a boyfriend that still lives with his parents. Find out how to determine what this means and what to do about it. Watch as Julie Orlov answers your questions on dating. In today’s culture, it is not uncommon for adult children to move back into their parents’ home even if they are well into their thirties. Find out what to look for to determine if this person is the right person for you regardless of their current living situation. Learn how to approach this sensitive topic and ways to resolve issues in your relationships today. http://youtu.be/uTBhOSYPU3k

Single and looking for love? Separate out the hype from the truth.

Julie Orlov — Mon, 03 Dec 2012 05:20:45 +0000

Singles have become a huge and lucrative market for savvy marketers. There are a lot of people out there taking advantage of single people looking for love. They see these individuals as desperate, needy, and gullible. They will sell you a lot of baloney on the promise that they can deliver “happily ever after.” They have all the right words, promises, magical solutions, and bonuses galore, all of which depend on you believing a lot of hype and ignoring a lot of truth. I am appalled at what lengths some people will go to sell singles. They prey on your fears and insecurities. They create urgency where there is none. They claim they have expertise when in fact they have little to none. As with so many industries, the levels of mastery and standards have been watered down. I have seen this tragedy in my own field of personal development and mental health. While the internet has created access to valuable information and resources, it has also created an opportunity for others to claim and create the illusion of excellence where there may be none. Now, don’t get me wrong. There are plenty of ethical people out there offering legitimate valuable services and products—but it can be difficult to distinguish the good guys from the bad. So in pursuit of honoring those of us that take our ethical standards and professional integrity seriously, I want to offer you some guidelines so that you will not be victim to those that simply want to make a buck at your expense. Don’t believe that…

Dating as a Single Parent

Julie Orlov — Mon, 05 Nov 2012 03:02:15 +0000

Last Friday was the debut of my new radio show “Pathways to Love” on LATalkLive.com. Our topic was Dating as a Single Parent. I believe the topic is so important that I decided to continue the discussion this week in my blog on dating. Being a single parent presents multiple challenges when it comes to dating. If you weren’t able to listen in on the show last Friday, I highly recommend you listen to the archived show at http://latalklive.com/new/pathways-to-love. But in the meantime, I thought it would be good to provide some general guidance on how to tackle these important issues.

Are You Relationship Ready?

Julie Orlov — Sun, 23 Sep 2012 19:07:19 +0000

If you or someone you know is not having luck in the area of finding love, there just may be some very good reasons as to why this is so. A lot of people with good intentions will tell you what you are doing wrong and what it is you need to do in order to “call in the one.” The underlying assumption is that you are at the cause of the problem—in fact, the underlying false assumption is that there is a problem to begin with. There are many reasons why you may not be relationship ready—all of which are sound and sensible as to why this may not be the right time for you to find and create a long-term committed romantic relationship. Don’t worry. I will not leave you hanging. Here is a list of some of the many reasons why your single or uncommitted status reflects why you are exactly where you need to be.

Catch the Warning Signs Early!

Julie Orlov — Mon, 27 Aug 2012 02:20:11 +0000

During those first few dates with someone new, it is important to identify any possible red flags. Doing so can save you weeks, if not months, of unnecessary drama and pain. While I believe that it takes a long time to truly get to know someone, I also believe that people reveal certain things about themselves unknowingly during that initial ‘get to know you’ phase. And while most dates try to be on their best behavior during the first and second dates, there are hidden (and sometimes not so hidden) clues to identifying your date’s true agenda and values. Today, I’m going to share with you how to find the clues that will give you the information you need in order to determine if another date with this person is in your future.

Dating Made Easy

Julie Orlov — Sat, 28 Jul 2012 00:32:38 +0000

The first step towards having a great relationship is going out on a first date. Dating is an important ritual and precursor to building a relationship. It gives you the opportunity to get to know someone and see if there is a mutual interest in taking things to the next level. For some, dating comes naturally. For others, just the idea of dating makes their heart palpitate. Some people seem to be dating someone new all the time. For others, the notion on how to even find someone to date is perplexing. So for those of you that find dating either impossible, improbable, or just plain nerve racking, here are my tips on how to make dating easy and fun.