I sat down to write my blog on Sunday (two Sunday’s ago) and found myself having nothing to say. It was two days after the terrorist attacks in Paris and writing something profound about dating seemed trivial. So after twenty minutes of staring at the computer screen, I decided to call it a day and let last Monday’s blog go unwritten.
As I sit down for another attempt, I again have no inspiration to write about dating. I am still feeling saddened about the state of our global community. So I am going to write down my wandering thoughts and appreciate your patience with my doing so.
Based on current world affairs, I believe we are no better off than we were a century or millennium ago. What progress have we made? How do we deal with toxic people who contaminate our communities? What do you do with those members of your family that poison the waters? How do we deal with the inevitable cancers that infiltrate our societies?
Throughout the ages, we have utilized many strategies to deal with such cancers. We annihilate them. We love them in hopes that they will heal. We threaten them in order to deter their behaviors and mitigate their impact. We punish them for bad behaviors. We negotiate in good faith. We collude in their need for control and power. We deny they exist. We try to escape and avoid them. We feel victim to their threats and actions. We ignore them. We accept them. We join them. We are them.
Look inside yourself and see the parts of you that are cancerous.
Have you ever blamed another person or group for your problems? Have you felt hate in your heart? Have you ever made choices based on fear? Have you attempted to gain control or power at the expense of someone else? Have you lashed out in anger? Have you ever become physically violent? Have you wished someone dead? Have you ever been influenced to do something destructive by a group who gives you the promise of something great? Do you have blind faith in your version of what is so? Has that faith influenced how you act toward others?
If you’re honest and forthcoming, you will have answered yes to one, if not many, of the questions above. We all have a form of cancer within. Just as your white cells are constantly scanning and eliminating cancer cells that float within your body, your consciousness must do the same for your mind.
Your consciousness is looking for and asking the following:
What are your core beliefs based on?
How do you handle fear and hopelessness?
Where is your locus of control and power?
How do you access love in your heart?
How do you control your impulses and act from a place of integrity and personal power?
What do you really want to create?
Where does your pain live and how can you heal?
I don’t have any answers. Cancers are a part of life. I don’t see that changing. I see us continuing to struggle between creating growth and renewal and creating death and destruction. I accept that fact that I will be saddened by horrific acts of destruction from time to time. And I know that my heart will be consistently renewed by actions of generosity and love.
With thoughts and prayers to all those affected by the cancers,
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