What are people saying about The Pathway to Love:

“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential

 

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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

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Saturday
Mar192016

What Does a Panda Cub Know About Life?

We are way too serious too much of the time. We put so much emphasis on what things mean and what we accomplish that we have forgotten the joy of play. Take time to slow down and rediscover the part of you that finds joy and laughter in the small things; the part of you that can just be; the part in you that has fun in the most unexpected ways.

To help you remember the joy of play, I invite you to watch the Panda cubs in action.

Find your inner Panda cub and play!

Watch on YouTube at https://youtu.be/sGF6bOi1NfA

Enjoy and be well,

Julie

P.S.  If you or someone you know is wanting to create a life filled with purpose and love, please don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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Friday
Feb192016

Dating with the End in Mind

In addition to working as a psychotherapist, I also work as a Consultant for organizations and businesses. In that role, I facilitate strategic planning sessions and leadership/team development programs. One of the ways I work with executives on strategic planning is to start with the end in mind. We clearly define the goal and then work backwards to determine major milestones and tactical action items. It may sound counter-intuitive but in actuality, starting from the finish line and working your way back is a very effective way to set and achieve goals.

For those of you who are ready to date or newly dating (and for anyone else who just wants to learn how to set and reach goals), starting with the end in mind may be the difference between creating what you want or not. Follow these simple guidelines and see for yourself.

  1. Get very clear on what kind of relationship you want. Describe the relationship in concrete terms—e.g., want to eventually be married, monogamous, live in a house in the Seattle area, both have satisfying and fulfilling jobs, want 3 children, visit family often, take adventurous vacations, enjoy taking our two dogs for walks, etc.
  2. Determine what qualities and traits are most important to you in a partner. Only list 3-4 traits—select them wisely and make sure they are traits that enable your ideal relationship to grow.
  3. Determine who you need to be. List the qualities and traits you need to have in order to be a partner who can co-create your ideal relationship with someone else.
  4. Think of places where you will find people that are interested in the kind of relationship you desire? For example, if you want someone who likes to be social and adventurous, you would want to sign up for social events and adventures. Or, if you want to be with someone who is physically fit, you would want to spend time at a fitness center or doing activities that require a fit lifestyle.
  5. Consider how you will know that this person has the interests and traits you are looking for? Be prepared to put in the time and get to know someone. Don’t meet someone and interview them—people are either put off by this or will tell you what you want to hear if they like you. Only time and shared experiences will give you the validation you need. Enjoy getting to know someone. Take the pressure off yourself and know it can take a year or three to find out if he or she is the one. In the meantime, have fun!
  6. Be willing to walk away if it turns out that this person is not a good fit. Don’t commit to someone hoping he or she will change. If you truly want different things or your mate demonstrates behaviors that do not match your top three traits, it will be better to suffer the loss now.
  7. Be open to discovering that your concept of the ideal relationship has changed. Sometimes we think we want something only to discover what we want is right in front of us. Love has a funny way of doing that. Just make sure your personal integrity is intact and the relationship has the capacity to continue to grow.

Be intentional about your desire to create the relationship you want. Be open to who and what comes your way. Get out of your way and live your best life.

If you or someone you know is having trouble finding quality people and creating strong and intimate relationships, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

Be well,

Julie

About me: www.julieorlov.com/about

About The Pathway to Love at-home program: www.julieorlov.com/pathway-to-love

About your relationship: Get your Free Relationship Assessment Quiz at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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