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Friday
Feb062015

Where Did All the Good Men Go?

For those of you that believe there are no good men out there, I have good news and bad news.

The bad news is as long as you believe men are not interested in commitment, intimacy, women their age, or responsibility, you will probably continue to find men that meet your expectations.  Yes, there are men that fit those categories but there are many more men that don't.  I have found that men rise to the standards of the women they meet and want. So if you are frustrated in the quality of men you are meeting, ask yourself the following questions. And by the way, these same questions apply to men who are looking for quality women.

1. Where are you meeting men? Find activities, friends and communities where you are more likely to meet men that want what you want. Don't hang out at your local bars or on-line dating sites if you are frustrated in the quality of men there.

2. Are you saying "no thank you" to men that lack interest, respect or qualities that you desire? Stop waiting for a man to suddenly become what you need. If he isn't courting you or treating you accordingly, move on. Saying no to what you don't want is just as important to saying yes to what you do. Sometimes you really do need to kiss a lot of frogs before finding the one. The  trick is to stop spending unnecessary time hanging out with the frogs. Once you know he is a frog, let him go.

3. Are you too attached to being right? If you believe there are no good men out there, then that may be what you see, no matter what. Start recognizing the good ones out there (whether they are single or not) and begin to create a new belief system. There are many wonderful men in the world. And there is no reason why you can't meet one of them.

Which brings me to my last question...

4. Have you looked in the mirror? I hate to be blunt, but just maybe the problem lies with you. Take a good look at yourself. Get an outside professional perspective. You may have issues that are getting in your way. It simply may not be "them."

There are countless stories of people of all ages who have met wonderful mates and have begun wonderful relationships. Don't buy into the myth that all the good ones are gone. And don't buy into the myth that men only want.... fill in the blank. Start believing and acting on the belief that there are wonderful men who would feel lucky to meet a wonderful woman like yourself!

If you or someone you know needs help in finding love, don't hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Be well,

Julie

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

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Friday
Jan092015

6 Signs of Dating Desperation

Nothing turns people off more than desperation and neediness. And if you are getting serious about finding love in 2015, you will want to stay away from people who need you to make themselves whole, fixed, or stable. And you certainly don't want to be a desperate dater yourself.

Whether you are a seasoned dater or just staring out after a hiatus, here are 6 signs of dating desperation.

1. You leave a message or send a text to your new love interest but can't wait comfortably for the person to call or text you back. You obsessively look for their reply or worse, you text or call again within 24 - 48 hours.

2. You turn down invitations from friends and family because you want to leave yourself open "just in case" he or she calls you and wants to get together.

3. You say yes to everything your new love interest suggests and allow the relationship to be on his or her terms for fear of rejection.

4. You rationalize, tolerate or ignore bad dating behavior. These include breaking dates at the last minute, arriving very late without calling, changing plans on you without asking, and other disrespectful behaviors. If you're not sure what behaviors constitute disrespect, you are probably tolerating too many of them.

5. You're focused on if your date likes you or not, or if your date will want to see you again. You are NOT focused on if you like your date or not, if you want to go out with him or her again, or if this person treats you with the respect you deserve.

6. Even when this person tells you they are not interested in a relationship, dating you exclusively, or dating you at all, you ignore this and pursue him or her even more, convinced that this person is the one for you.

If you recognize yourself or someone you care about, I strongly encourage you to get help. You may be suffering from temporary insanity--a paralysis of power--often stemming from some kind a crazy response that this individual elicits. Or you are suffering from chronic anxiety and low self-worth. Either way, help is available. Feel free to call 310-379-5855 or write and schedule an appointment. There is a way for you to reclaim your power, confidence and self-respect.  And if that's not enough, you will certainly have better dating experiences and relationship results.

Here's to a successful year of love!

Julie

P.S. If you or someone you know wants to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, don’t hesitate to contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized guidance and coaching. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today. Take advantage of the opportunity receive the support and guidance you deserve. 

Julie Orlov, psychotherapist, speaker, and author of The Pathway to Love: Create Intimacy and Transform Your Relationships through Self-Discovery

Retrieve Your FREE Relationship Assessment Quiz and see if YOUR Relationship is on track at www.julieorlov.com/quiz

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