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“Insightful, practical, heartfully and psychologically sound, The Pathway to Love provides the steppingstones to creating genuine love in your life.  It is a must-read for those who value honesty, authentic commitment to self and other, and appreciate relationship as a vehicle to self-actualization.”

—Michael Bernard Beckwith, author of Spiritual Liberation~Fulfilling Your Soul’s Potential


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You will wonder at times how she knew about you and a particular significant other because she seems to describe you and the relationship to a T. And, when you read the last page you will wish you had read it years and a number of relationships earlier.

Irene Conlan

I have read other books on this topic which spoke to me... This book, which I got in the Kindle version, pulled it all together for me--the biology, personal values, self identity, the human quest for belonging and intimacy. The book... brought to me great understanding. I wish I had ordered the paper version with the workbook. I ended up going back and ordering it.

Paula Markgraf Katz

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I had writer’s block last week….

I sat down to write my blog on Sunday (two Sunday’s ago) and found myself having nothing to say. It was two days after the terrorist attacks in Paris and writing something profound about dating seemed trivial. So after twenty minutes of staring at the computer screen, I decided to call it a day and let last Monday’s blog go unwritten.

As I sit down for another attempt, I again have no inspiration to write about dating. I am still feeling saddened about the state of our global community. So I am going to write down my wandering thoughts and appreciate your patience with my doing so.

Based on current world affairs, I believe we are no better off than we were a century or millennium ago. What progress have we made? How do we deal with toxic people who contaminate our communities? What do you do with those members of your family that poison the waters? How do we deal with the inevitable cancers that infiltrate our societies?

Throughout the ages, we have utilized many strategies to deal with such cancers. We annihilate them. We love them in hopes that they will heal. We threaten them in order to deter their behaviors and mitigate their impact. We punish them for bad behaviors. We negotiate in good faith. We collude in their need for control and power. We deny they exist. We try to escape and avoid them.  We feel victim to their threats and actions. We ignore them. We accept them. We join them. We are them.

Look inside yourself and see the parts of you that are cancerous.

Have you ever blamed another person or group for your problems? Have you felt hate in your heart? Have you ever made choices based on fear? Have you attempted to gain control or power at the expense of someone else? Have you lashed out in anger? Have you ever become physically violent? Have you wished someone dead? Have you ever been influenced to do something destructive by a group who gives you the promise of something great? Do you have blind faith in your version of what is so? Has that faith influenced how you act toward others?

If you’re honest and forthcoming, you will have answered yes to one, if not many, of the questions above. We all have a form of cancer within. Just as your white cells are constantly scanning and eliminating cancer cells that float within your body, your consciousness must do the same for your mind.

Your consciousness is looking for and asking the following:

What are your core beliefs based on?

How do you handle fear and hopelessness?

Where is your locus of control and power?

How do you access love in your heart?

How do you control your impulses and act from a place of integrity and personal power?

What do you really want to create?

Where does your pain live and how can you heal?

I don’t have any answers. Cancers are a part of life. I don’t see that changing. I see us continuing to struggle between creating growth and renewal and creating death and destruction. I accept that fact that I will be saddened by horrific acts of destruction from time to time. And I know that my heart will be consistently renewed by actions of generosity and love. 

With thoughts and prayers to all those affected by the cancers,


P.S. If you or someone you know would like to create strong and intimate relationships in every area of your life, please contact me. I'm here to help. I provide personalized counseling and coaching. Take advantage of the opportunity to receive the support and guidance you deserve. And if you want to start right now, go and purchase The Pathway to Love at-home program. You don’t need to wait. You can begin the process today.

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Lessons Learned from New Love

Learn what to do when the unexpected happens in relationships. Read Andrea's story & get a gift too!

Andrea met Brad two months ago. She immediately fell head over heels in love. Brad pursued Andrea hard and in a matter of a few days, they were tied at the hips, spending every day together. They had become sexually involved after the second date and Andrea was sure he was “the one.”

Then one day, something happens. Brad disappeared. It happens more often than you think. Andrea is understandably upset by what happened. She is truly in a panic. Andrea calls me for a session. She tells me she needs to get in as quickly as possible. I can hear her panic and schedule a session for the next day. When Andrea arrives, this is what she tells me….

Before I continue, let me share with you a few things about new love.

When you first fall in love, it is normal to feel excited—excited about how good it feels and what your future holds. It is also normal to have moments of panic—you worry because nothing feels secure and you don’t want to experience any rejection, disappointment, or despair. And while you feel like you know your new love interest, in reality, you don’t really know each other at all. That is why people are hyper reactive when things go wrong—or should I say—differently from what you had hoped and expected from this new and potential relationship.

People get surprised during this initial phase of a relationship. This is because they unconsciously expect that their new significant other’s behavior will be consistent with what they experienced on the first few dates or first few weeks. However, when something changes suddenly and unexpectedly, it is easy to feel confused and concerned. How you handle these situations can set the course for how you and your new love handle future interactions. Knowing what to do can directly impact the future of your relationship. Understanding what is going on with you will ensure a powerful outcome, regardless of what that outcome is.

Andrea knew she was panicking and knew she needed help. She had heard about my work and The Pathway to Love and knew that she better call me before she did something crazy. Secretly she knew she had already acted out but hoped that she could repair the damage by talking to me. Andrea wanted to help others so she allowed me to record part of our session so that you could learn from her experience.

So here’s Andrea’s and my gift to you. We are giving you the download of Track One from The Pathway to Love Audio Guide where you will listen in on my coaching session with Andrea. Listen as Andrea learns why she is reacting the way she is and how best to respond to her boyfriend’s sudden disappearance.

Be well,


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